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Dear LGBTQIA2S, Allies, & Future Allies:

I am so glad you're here!

It's hard to love and appreciate things we don't understand. Our minds seek comfort in the familiar, what it knows and is steady... whether that knowledge is good and true or not.

I've found through my own coming out process, heaps of internalized homophobia. That fear came from not knowing. Shame came from what I thought LGBTQ+ meant, instead of what it actually was. Layers of societal conditioning that told me a story of fiction, instead of fact.

But to paraphrase the brilliant Dr. Maya Angelou, "When we know better, we do better."

Enter this space with curiosity, an open mind, and an open heart. Ask questions and let's learn more. Together we can build bridges of understanding.

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"You had me on the edge of my seat wanting more, with literal tears streaming down my face in the best way possible. Your writing is so impactful and your message is so important whether we are going through your exact situation or not. I am so excited for you and looking forward to more!"

C.W.

"I am so incredibly inspired by your courage. I’m so so happy that you’re living your truth."

C.G.

"Your brave and beautiful soul is shining its light and it feels glorious to bask in it. Keep doing all the things to send your light through this universe."

J.M.

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